Monday, December 14, 2015




I did my part the other day to entertain the Body Combat class at the YMCA. Somehow my feet got tangled as I was moving backward, my arms went flying and I was doing all I could to NOT face plant on the gym floor! I thought I had it under control and began to laugh at myself. Then somehow, my momentum continued to propel me back through several rows of Body Combaters behind me as they moved aside to make way for the outta control crazy lady. It was like parting the Red Sea!

Yes, that was me! I wish there would have been a video of this spectacular event because it was truly amazing that I didn’t go down all the way. You should have seen the looks on the faces of the people behind me trying to move out of my way. Hilarious! When I finally got back to my spot, I started laughing so hard that I became slightly delirious. You know how you can get when you don’t seem to be able to stop laughing and move on? Yup!

This kind of got me thinking about more than what had just happened. First, I’m thankful that I wasn’t really hurt, except maybe my ego just a little bit. I’m also glad my sense of humor was ready to kick in because it was one of those things that you couldn’t possibly act like it was nothing. Seriously, I was wearing a BRIGHT orange top. It was hard to miss me as I went flying! Being able to laugh at yourself in times like this is super important. We all stumble from time to time. Don’t take yourself so seriously that you fail to see the humor. Laugh it off, pick yourself up and keep going!

The other thing that got my mind pondering was how much my momentum propelled me in the direction I happened to be moving, which was backward. It begs the question, where is your momentum taking you? Are you moving forward? It’s a good time to assess the direction you are currently moving in and perhaps refocus your sights on the course you wish to travel.

I encourage you to take a few minutes today and create energy for forward progress. Maybe you’re ready to make huge strides or maybe you can only take a few baby steps. Just start moving in the direction you want to go. When you do this, eventually momentum will help propel you in the right direction.

By the way, if you’re thinking of moving in the path of physical fitness, I highly recommend the YMCA! It’s a great place to workout! If you ever see me there, don’t be a stranger, come say hi! :)

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Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Don't call it a Party if it's not a Party!




Kathryn & Cindy plead with you don't lie or trick us to get us to attend your presentation! Network Marketing Schemes aren't necessary. It's not nice. Just be honest. And always know that with Woman's InSite, we really d have real PARTIES!!!!

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

My Secret TV Addiction



There is something about summer time TV. I don’t actually watch much television at all and when I do, it tends to be either football or something that I’ve recorded for when I want to just be mindless and veg out on the couch. But there are a couple of shows that I really get caught up in…. includingSo You Think You Can Dance and Big Brother. I LOVE these shows. I set them up to record since my life has me out and about at most reasonable hours. But I confess, I totally look forward to catching up on each episode as soon as I get a chance. I get so drawn into the personalities and drama. It’s a great escape for me.

So You Think You Can Dance has been airing for 9 seasons and I think each one gets better. I do love watching these young dancers who have sacrificed hours and hours, year after year pursuing what they love. Such passion is admirable! The choreography is cutting-edge and I have to admit that I also admire the well-defined physiques if you know what I mean. I find myself crying at a moving performance in practically every episode. So don’t be surprised if you see me with puffy eyes over the next month or so. It’s one of the hazards of being overly emotional. I can’t help it and they do say that tears are cleansing ……. so consider me thoroughly cleansed by the end of the season.

The show I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY look forward to is Big Brother! It’s like a human chess game. I got hooked on this 3 years ago, the summer I became single again. I needed to escape my own drama in a Big way (pardon the pun) and this show was perfect. It was great to focus on other peoples’ lives and ridiculous behavior for a few hours each week. I got sucked in and can’t let go now. It’s a little embarrassing to be addicted to a reality show but it’s the truth and I embrace it.

So this season is about to start and I’ve been snooping around learning about the house guests forBig Brother 14. It seems like they have a well-rounded, mostly young, and hot cast (one has already dropped out and been replaced before it even airs) and of course there will be some house guests from seasons past. I just really HOPE that Rachel Reilly isn’t one of them. I don’t think I can take another season of her whining and fake tears. Ooops did I really say that? Yes, this show brings out the cattiness in me. I told you, I get a little wrapped up in all the drama.

So if you are one of the people who subscribe to the live feed that shows all the crazy, juicy details…. Fill me in on what’s happening. Who’s doing who, who’s lying, cheating, stealing…..I don’t get a chance to watch this but I admit to being very intrigued by what people will do with the full knowledge that the world can see them at every moment. This show is the perfect drug for the people watching addict.

Thursday, July 5, 2012

My Story





I am an ordinary woman who has found a way to share some of my life’s experiences in the hopes that others will be able to identify with and take comfort in knowing that we all face similar things in life. Yes, our stories are all different but the emotions and feelings are the same. The empathy that we are capable of feeling for one another enables us to experience personal growth.

In order to be able to share with even more people, in January, 2010 I started an online magazine called Woman’s InSite with my best friend, Cindy Dennen. They say that you should never go into business with your friends but I do believe that Cindy and I have found a nice balance between friendship and business partners. It has taken effort on both of our parts and there have definitely been some challenges but the bottom line is that we have enough love and respect for each other to allow for differences.

We all have vivid memories of things past that are so clear in our minds that when we are reminded of them, we can actually visualize ourselves exactly as we were in that moment and feel the emotions that we felt all over again. These are pivotal moments in our lives.

One of those vivid memories for me is when a marriage counselor told me something that ultimately had a tremendous impact on my life. While my husband and I sat on her couch trying to figure out if we could salvage a marriage in trouble, she said that if I didn’t like the way my husband treated me, it was up to me to change! She basically said it was my fault for not setting healthy boundaries. I remember feeling quite angry with her for not being sympathetic to me. I wanted her to tell my husband that he was verbally and emotionally abusive. In fact, there had even been some physical abuse early in the marriage. It was a pivotal moment in my life.

The counselor recommended that I read a book about boundaries. Even though I didn’t understand why she thought I was the one who needed to do some soul searching and make changes, I took her advice, got the book and read it. She did eventually did talk to my husband about his ways but it did little to change him. I think she knew it would be that way and therefore tried to help me become stronger.

He traveled 3 – 4 days a week, 50 weeks a year. This had a lot to do with the marriage lasting as long as it did. I didn’t see him that often and that was fine with me. While he was out of town, life was peaceful and the household ran very smoothly. Most of the time I felt like a single parent. I tried to ignore the fact that the night before he was to arrive back home, I was unable to sleep and the migraines and stomach issues would flare up again. It was a cycle that I was used to. I always knew that he would only be in town for a few days, with most of that time on a golf course or playing on-line Texas Hold Em.


Now fast-forward about 10 years. Cindy and I had been talking about starting a website but we both knew that we had a lot to learn before we were ready. It was a little ironic that we were talking about starting a computer-based business. I was the least likely person to be involved in anything that involved computer skills. Mine were seriously lacking. I could send an email and that’s about it. My son even tells a story claiming that I once asked him to show me how to turn on the computer. I definitely wasn’t approaching this business from the mindset that I would need to earn a living. It was more an idea of what I could do to keep busy and hopefully earn a little cash as a bonus. My life was in transition. One of my children had already graduated from high school and my baby was quickly approaching that milestone. I had been very active with their schools, church, community activities and raising my children and I am so thankful that I was able to do this. I wouldn’t trade those years for anything. But it was about to be time for me! It was something I was excited and nervous about.

Then the inevitable happened. My husband and I mutually agreed to get a divorce. Over the years, I had implemented my newfound knowledge and had begun setting boundaries with my husband as well as everyone else in my life. Eventually, a line was drawn in the sand and it turns out that it would be the very last boundary that I would set in my marriage. My husband laid out a plan to move me away from all of my friends and family. It was a take it or leave it proposition. I imagine that in his mind, this would be the perfect way to get control back. I refused to cross that line. While everyone else in my life thought of my setting boundaries as a good thing, my husband didn’t care for it at all. He had married a shy, quiet girl who rarely spoke up 23 years prior but I had changed. My self-esteem and confidence had grown tremendously over the years and that really didn’t fit with the type of wife that he wanted.


My “career” had to get put into high gear quickly! I realized that those years spent being room mom, PTO President, serving on Parent Advisory and Church Building Committees, volunteering to do things like pick up trash on the side of the road, teaching Sunday School…….. were all great things to be involved in, but they weren’t the only thing a prospective employer wanted to see on a resume and it wasn’t going to pay the bills. I needed to find a way to transition from being a volunteer to finding a career. Unfortunately, this is a scene that is played out in many women’s lives. My husband had not wanted me to work. It would have been much more difficult for him to travel with his job if I was working too.

This idea to do something with a website seemed crazy at this point, but I didn’t want to let it go. I knew that being an entrepreneur was my only hope for making enough money to LIVE on. The best I could hope for in corporate America was minimum wage.

I signed up for a basic computer class at HCC and learned how to do things like cut & paste. I learned what a URL and a search engine were. The more I learned, the more it hit home how little I knew. It made me see that I still had a long way to go and it was scary. You may think at this point that Cindy had far superior tech skills than I did. Nope, after I graduated, with a 4.0, from my class, I proudly shared all of my knowledge with her so she could get caught up to speed. It was a serious case of the blonde leading the blonde!

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this might be the perfect thing for me, a website where we talk about anything and everything from a woman’s perspective. I already knew what I lacked so I focused on what my strengths were. I had a lot of InSite into life experiences. Even though the marriage ended in divorce, I felt I had accomplished a GREAT deal of learning from that time in my life. Another thing I had going for me was that I had always loved to write. I had been the CEO of the family and was very organized and good at planning. I knew I could get involved with networking easily. In fact, I loved talking to people. Most people thought I was completely crazy but I decided to go for it anyway.

My next step was to sell some of my jewelry in order to get the cash needed for the business start up. The actual sale of the jewelry is something that I’m able to laugh at today but at the time, it was really crazy. I consigned it to an auction house. Oh, and I forgot to mention that my ex is an auctioneer and I took it to an auction house where he did contract work. My son was the manager there so I knew that he wouldn’t let anything shady happen. I felt like that would be my safest way and best shot at selling the jewelry quickly for decent money. On the day of the auction, I got a heads up that my ex-husbands girlfriend would be in attendance. This was only a few weeks after our divorce was final and so I did what any normal woman would do. I made sure that I looked AWESOME and I brought my posse with me! We filled up 2 rows. Even the pastor of my church showed up. I ALMOST felt sorry for her. It came time for my nice little heart shaped diamond ring to sell and my ex proceeded to ask Girlfriend if she wanted to buy it. Seriously, why in the world would she want my oId jewelry? I will add here that my ex was NOT the original purchaser of the jewelry. What a weird feeling! Ultimately, Girlfriend had the good sense to say no, she wasn’t interested in that particular cast off. But it did get sold and I raised the money that I needed to get set up in business. I offered Cindy a percentage of ownership to join me. Being the loyal friend that she is, she agreed. I knew it would require a lot of work before we actually started to see any money actually come in.

Cindy and I, along with a few other people, put our heads together and came up with ideas to start Woman’s InSite. We went to a web designer with pages of instructions on what we liked and didn’t like. We gave them all of our ideas and turned it over to them. A few weeks later, we got our first look at the admin part of the site. This is another one of those moments that I can recall with great detail. Cindy and I were sitting side by side with our laptops at the dining room table of my house. As we logged in, I’ll never forget feeling so completely overwhelmed at all that I needed to learn. How would I ever “get” all of this? But I took a deep breath and we forged ahead and learned it. Unfortunately, what we didn’t know was that I had spent way too much money on a website that was outdated before we even started. I did mention that technology wasn’t my strength, right? But I have to say that I’m still proud that we did learn how to manage it all. And we did it very well. I think I was carried by determination. I did not want to be at the mercy of a web-master or anyone else for that matter. I had learned that being dependent on someone else didn’t feel good. I know it’s ok to let people in your life help you but you should never let yourself become trapped by it.

Since then, we have moved onto a much more efficient WordPress platform for Woman’s InSite and I have learned how to use that even better. We have continued to make changes and upgrades that require learning new techniques but I’m no longer afraid to tackle something that I know little or nothing about.  I have confidence in my abilities.

In the process of marketing Woman’s InSite, I have done a great deal of networking. I’ve had the opportunity to meet quite a few financial advisors who always seem to ask many pointed and difficult business questions. Questions that I had no answers to. I must say that I have nothing against financial advisors or people in that profession. There are some people in my life that are very dear to me in this field. But I have learned, people in this profession think a little differently than I do because they would always ask me if I have a plan B. I would very timidly tell them no, I don’t. I could see in their eyes that they thought I was foolish or crazy and maybe even both. Many times following these conversations, I would lie in bed at night and allow my doubts to haunt me. But the doubt never stayed for long because the next thing I knew I was standing in front of someone that would build me up and encourage me. A door would open or a perceived roadblock would clear. Whether or not it was family, friends or complete strangers, someone was always right there to help and tell me to keep going. The timing was divinely perfect. I’m learning that I don’t have to take on other peoples’ opinions. Just because someone says or thinks something about you doesn’t make it true.

A few months after we launched our website, the Pastor of my church asked me to share my story of courage for a series he was preaching. I thought, courage? Does this appear to be courage? Because really, inside, I’ve been scared! At times, I feel like I’m way up high in a huge tree, out on the edge hanging on a limb because of the circumstances in my life. I didn’t willingly stroll out there because of this amazing amount of bravado that I possess. No, I’ve been pushed. Forced out there. Perhaps it’s been faith that’s given me the courage to hang on. I could have easily let go of that limb and sunk into the abyss of depression and anger about the unfairness of life. If I’m going to be completely honest, I did dip low enough to reach the ground a couple of times. I had moments of bitterness and feeling sorry for myself. I just didn’t settle there. I had a business to run.

Many of those low times I would call Cindy and vent. There were things that were happening with my children that were almost unbearable. We would talk, cry and sometimes even find something to laugh about through our tears. She would always listen and then tell me 4 words that have come to mean so much to me. It’s become my mantra. She would say, “Kathryn, you have to just let it go. These things are out of your control. You have to Let Go, Let God”. Intellectually, I already knew that but it always helped to hear her say it. It’s much easier to speak the words than put them into practice. Letting Go and Letting God will be a lifelong journey for me but I’m making progress.

I know that I am blessed to have a friend like Cindy in my life for 25 years and counting. We have been through many life-changing events together and have held each other up when needed along the way. We are often asked about how we have remained so loyal over such a long period of time. The sad truth is that not everybody experiences this kind of friendship.

“Rare is true love, true friendship is rarer”, Jean de la Fontaine.

I think of the old I Love Lucy show. Lucy and Ethel got into some crazy things together. No matter what happened, they were there for each other. They always had each other’s back. They may not have always agreed but if they ever heard anyone else trying to say anything bad about the other, then you better watch out. They would let ‘em know to back off.

A real life example of loyal friendship is Oprah and Gayle. Cindy even wrote and article called Searching for Gayle. She talks about the time Oprah was being interviewed by Barbara Walters and how Oprah spoke of the rare type of friendship that she shares with Gayle; the kind that is filled with laughter, mutual respect and fierce loyalty. That’s us to a tee!

My advice is to BE the kind of friend that you WANT to have. Know that you won’t see things the same way all the time and be ok with that. Encourage each other to succeed, even when it means that her success is greater than yours. Cindy and I know that we were BOTH born to be great in different ways and therefore, we have been able to hold each other up where the other is weak. Our hope is that everyone will find his or her Gayle.

After months of networking and at the urging of a respected friend, a meeting with a fascinating yet quirky “Personal Brand Evangelist” opened my eyes to a great deal that I had been missing in my personal and professional life. This meeting was a pivotal moment in my life. I really didn’t know what branding meant. I’d heard the words being used by others but didn’t have a grasp of what it should mean to me. I learned about consistent, effective Branding and how to properly utilize Social Media in this area. This helped us to increase traffic to Woman’s InSite at a much faster pace than we had previously experienced.

This man also told me that “I don’t know” is a perfectly acceptable answer to any question. He said there is no shame in not knowing. All you need is confidence in your ability to learn what you need to know. I believe it’s simply a matter of desire and getting started. I can tell you that because I have learned so much, my confidence level has soared.  Another important thing that he taught me is to never be afraid of doing what your heart is leading you to do. I had been battling fear and doubt along my journey but I have come to trust my inner voice a little more each step of the way.

One day, I spoke with yet another financial advisor that asked me about plan B.  I had become a bit more confident at this point so I looked him in the eye and replied with a bit of cockiness, “nope, no plan B”. But this one was different! He smiled at me and said, “Good, no one with a plan B ever makes plan A work”. Wow! How profound. I really needed to hear that. Failure has NOT been an option for me. I think this was a real turning point. I believe that with the proper motivation, you can do what you set out to do. Yes, it’s going to take some time. There are no overnight successes. I know that I still have some things to learn before I’m ready for the big leagues but I am certain that I will get there when the time is right.

When we started Woman’s InSite, I was the only writer. One thing that I quickly learned was that putting my thoughts and feelings on paper was very therapeutic in helping me heal. Some of the articles I have written have been deeply personal but I have always been conscious of the fact that my children will see what I write. Sharing some of the things that happened in my marriage has been a challenge. It was tough to publish those first few articles but I almost felt compelled to do it.

I believe sharing my story has given courage and hope to others. I think there are more than a few people out there that have cried and laughed along this journey with me. Not all of our stories are the same but the emotions and feelings that we have are what bring us together. It’s how we empathize and help each other grow. Many women and men have confided in me their own stories about their personal relationships over the last couple of years. I guess because I’ve written so much about my story, they know that I’ll understand. Talking with people gives me encouragement.  I know that by sharing these painful emotions with others, I have at least comforted them in the knowledge that they aren’t alone. Many of us have been there and we can empathize.

I was married for 23 years, 10 of them being pretty darn unhappy. I went through my days with a smile on my face that never reached my eyes. I don’t like looking at photos of myself during this time in my life because I can see the pain and unhappiness in my eyes. It’s hard to admit but I stuck around in that state doing nothing about it because I was afraid. I’m pretty sure my mom knew how bad things were because moms just have a way of looking at you and seeing what’s in your heart.

At the time I didn’t talk about my feelings to anybody except Cindy and even to her it was spoken of only once. It’s another one of those times in my life that I remember nearly every detail very vividly. We had a brief conversation on the phone while I was sitting in my car in a Walmart parking lot. I told her that financial fear was the only thing keeping me married. It’s a moment that I’ll never forget because prior to this, I don’t think I’d even admitted it to myself. I had been telling myself that I still loved him. When I said the words out loud, this truth became almost unbearable. It’s very humbling to admit that I stayed married because I didn’t see a way that I would be able to support my children or myself. I must confess that once I acknowledged this truth, intimacy with my husband felt like a gross betrayal to myself.  Fear kept me there because I didn’t embrace the truth that God would see me through and provide.


When I tell people about my divorce after 23 years of marriage and how it changed my life, I can tell that some of them want to feel sorry for me because of what seems “unfair”. The last thing I want is sympathy. Yes, life can seem unfair at times but I now have the ability to look back and see that God had so much more in store for me than I could have ever imagined. I just wasn’t ready for it yet. I had to go through where I’ve been to get here.

I can honestly say I have NO regrets. I’m happier now than I ever imagined was possible. I realize that every time there seemed to be something in my way, God has placed exactly the right person in front of me to help, encourage and advise me. He has surrounded me with amazing family and friends that have supported me in every way. That Personal Brand Evangelist that I mentioned has become much more than a business advisor to me. That meeting that I told you about had been scheduled for 30 minutes. Five hours later, we wrapped it up and went to a wine bar to share a glass of wine and get to know each other on a personal level. He has shown me what true love feels like. My life is great and I can’t wait to see the amazing things yet to come.

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”      T.S. Eliot

Woman’s InSite is now into its 4th year of business. We now have a large team of writers that contribute articles to us. When I look back at all the hurdles that I’ve jumped and all that I’ve learned I’m truly amazed with how far we’ve come. Who would have thought a few years ago that I, Kathryn Crawford Wheat, would own a successful online magazine? A woman with no computer skills successfully running and managing a computer based business?

Where do we go from here? Cindy and I plan on Woman’s InSite becoming an internationally recognized brand. Yes, we have big dreams. I know that when we are ready, God will be right there with us showing us how to make it happen.


In closing, I want to leave you with my second favorite quote:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ’Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Marianne Williamson

No matter where your personal journey has taken you, don’t be afraid of your own greatness. Embrace it and share it with the world!